Care Pack #005
Emotional Regulation Pack
State → Body → Action → Communication
Before you begin, where are you right now?
One tap. It gives you something to measure against at the end.
What state are you in?
Select the one that feels closest right now.
- 1.Notice which way you have tipped: revved up and racing, or shut down and numb
- 2.If you are revved up, slow the breath out, press your feet down, cool water on your wrists
- 3.If you are shut down, stand up, move your arms, say three colors you can see out loud
- 4.You are not aiming for calm. You are aiming for the middle, back inside your window
- 5.One small move is enough. You do not have to fix the whole feeling right now
Anger Diffusion Protocol
Anger Diffusion
Trigger → Pause → Discharge → Decide
Sensory Reset
Tap one and just do it. No reading required.
Find one color in the room. Look at only that color for 20 seconds.
Close your eyes. Listen only to background sounds for 30 seconds.
Hold something cold or textured. Focus entirely on the sensation.
Press your feet firmly into the floor. Feel the ground holding you for 15 seconds.
Communication Scripts
Tap to copy and use directly.
Regulation is not control. It is returning to a state where you can choose.
Find professional supportQuestions people ask
How do I calm down when emotions take over?
Start with the body, not the thoughts: name the state you are in, downshift the nervous system with slow exhales, and use a sensory reset like cool water or firm pressure. The free Emotional Regulation Pack on this page walks the whole sequence.
What is nervous system regulation?
Returning your body from a revved-up or shut-down state to one where you can choose your response. Regulation is not control and not calmness on demand. It is a set of practiced signals that tell your system it is safe enough to settle.
What are communication scripts?
Short pre-written phrases for the moments when finding words is hardest, like telling someone you need a pause without the conversation becoming a second storm. The pack includes several to adapt.
Is Fair Care free? Do I need an account?
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Is this a substitute for therapy or medical care?
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You reached the end. Where are you now?
One tap, however it landed.
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